Trinity 21: Willing to be Last?

Call of the Sons of Zebedee – Marco Basaiti

20/10/24
Trinity 21

Hebrews 5:1-10
Mark 10:35-45

I am going to start with a story I picked up from an online sermon this week about a man who was offered the presidency of a small educational institution in the US. He wanted the job, and thought he should take it. Nevertheless, given his Quaker tradition, he assembled a “clearness committee” of some trusted friends. Their job wasn’t to give him any advice, but instead to ask him honest, open-ended questions, so that the man could discern his vocational call for himself.

Halfway through this three-hour meeting, a friend asked what he would like most about being president. He mentioned several things he would not enjoy, like wearing a tie, at which his friend pointed out that he wasn’t answering the question.
The man paused, thought a bit, then he writes how he “gave an answer that appalled even me as I spoke it: ‘Well,’ I said, in the smallest voice I possess, ‘I guess what I’d like most is getting my picture in the paper with the word ‘president’ under it.'”
He concludes: “I was sitting with seasoned Quakers who knew that though my answer was laughable, my mortal soul was clearly at stake! They did not laugh at all but went into a long and serious silence — a silence in which I could only sweat and inwardly groan.
Finally, my questioner broke the silence with a question that cracked all of us up — and cracked me open: ‘Can you think of an easier way to get your picture in the paper?’ By then it was obvious, even to me, that my desire to be president had much more to do with my ego than with the ecology of my life.” The clearness committee had made things clear, and he withdrew his name from the search.
The man isn’t a bad person; he’s just more honest than most of us, and maybe more in touch with his true self.

How about you? Think for a moment about any positions of power or responsibility that you have held; could be a job or in the community or the church. What did you like about it? How did it make you feel? Did you enjoy the title more than the actual role?

This is a live issue for me as Lead Chaplain of Gatwick Airport. I like the title. I like telling people what I do when asked. It makes for easy conversation when meeting new people as it is a unique role. There are downfalls to this; the temptation to only talk about myself or think that I am the most interesting person in the room. Or to convince myself that I am exempt from normal rules and regulations because of my title. The danger of being overwhelmed by entitlement is real and present.

Over the last 8 years I have been a curate and priest in 11 churches (8 parishes) in 9 towns and villages. Experience has shown that some people (however good-ly or godly intentioned and well-meaning) possess a deep need for power and control over local goings on and more frighteningly, the sharing of information, news or gossip.

Fortunately this is not a new problem for human beings. As far back as Mark’s Gospel and even before, the grab for glory has existed. Make me great again! This is what James and John, with the help of their mother, seemingly want to do. There is no record of what motivated their request; maybe a sense of entitlement or seniority over the other disciples.

James and John make a startling demand of Jesus: ‘we want you to do for us whatever we ask of you’. They say this before they actually ask/tell Jesus what it is that they want him to do. There are very few people whose request I would grant before I knew what the request was. Their question is often dismissed as foolish or arrogant, ‘oh those silly Sons of Thunder!’ Jesus does not rebuff or get angry with them as the disciples did. Jesus welcomes the question, invites them to ask it, but has some questions of his own for James and John. Questions that are not easy to answer.

‘What is it that you want me to do for you?’ asks Jesus. The first thing James and John did right was that they have come to Jesus; generally a very good starting point. James and John clearly trust Jesus to come through for them. However they along with the other disciples have missed what Jesus was trying to tell them about what was coming: being handed over to the chief priests and scribes, condemned to death, handed over again, mocked, spat on, flogged and killed; and after three days rise again.

They did not listen, they did not hear what they wanted to. Again, a familiar problem in the modern age; the failure to listen, to hear what is being said. The first accusation or failing of any leader is often the failure to listen. Many people rightly complain about not being listened to. There is a difference between not being listened to and being listened to and still not getting what you want.

This was the case for James and John. They are not criticised for their tactless request, not at least by Jesus. James and John believe that Jesus will win; Jesus will be in glory and they want to be right there with him. They are ambitious for God! They expect Jesus to be glorified in the way they thought he should or would be. Jesus redirects these ambitions, wants to reset their priorities and motives.

Real greatness, whether on the international, national or local stage (in whatever capacity) is not characterised by domination, political power or schemes to control or subjugate people but by self-sacrificial service to others. So often we believe this although practice proves otherwise.

How ambitious are we for God? The real danger we face as a church, as parishes and the Church more widely is apathy, cynicism and complacency. These are the roadblocks to abundant living and transformation.

Jesus wants us to want more, seek more, hope more and need more of him. This, I think, is why he did not get angry with James and John as they were doing the right thing: going to him and asking but they needed some redirection. The request of James and John does get answered. Jesus tells them that it is not his request to grant but it is for those whom it has been prepared. Sounds a little cryptic but Jesus is completely deferring to God. This is not Jesus’ decision to make. The purpose of God will not be thwarted. But neither can they be fully understood beforehand.

The places are seemingly prepared for those who want to serve. This is what James and John fail to recognize and probably the other upset disciples too. Jesus calls them together for a lesson of ‘supreme importance’ as one commentary put it. Jesus is not going to operate like the world does, ruling with tyranny and a heavy hand.

Jesus came to serve and not be served. You want to sit on my left and on my right? Then you must be the servant. Want to be first, then you have to be the last! Give up your entitlement, move downwards. This is not about rules but a way of life.

On this Dedication Sunday where we give thanks and celebrate the work of Emmanuel, how are we doing as a house of prayer? Are we following Jesus as we should? What about the orientation of our hearts? We may be following the commandments but what about storing treasure in heaven? The future of Emmanuel is not very clear and we need to pray about this. Where is God calling us to go?

If we only look at the bank account or the church building (both of which can be anxiety-producing exercises) it will never work. We need to look at something bigger, beyond us. We need God to lead and guide us in our mission, our giving, and in our love for each other. In any and all instances we need to approach the throne of grace and seek God’s mercy and help and then be obedient to what is being required.

Can I ask you to pray for the plans for Emmanuel and St Nicholas? For the people who faithfully serve, for our finances, for the impact on the community around us.

The real question we need to ask is: ‘What can I do for you?’. This is a question to ask of God but also to each other. Be prepared for more questions than answers; not always what you want to hear but always loving and always true.
Like James and John, we might want God to do something for us. Ask away! Go to the Father in faith, in confidence; He will take your questions, your ambitions and desires in order to line up with His will. If we are willing.

There is no need to be embarrassed. James and John certainly were not. Their questions were heard. The answers may have been unexpected, even unwanted but they came away changed from these conversations. Hopefully more understanding of how God operates and what Jesus came to do. He came to serve and we should be willing to do the same.

Trinity 15: Be Opened

8/9/24
Trinity 15

Psalm 125
James 2:1-17
Mark 7: 24-37


The lectionary readings this morning are rather dense and present us with challenges to our own behaviour as well as the challenging behaviour of Jesus. James has a lot to say about favouritism, uncaring behaviour towards the poor, the need for mercy and the purpose of good works. Jesus encounters two people who desperately need his help which they both receive with different processes.

We will start in the shallower end with a few questions: What is your favourite colour? What is your favourite food? Favourite song? Film? Television program? We all have our favourite things and this is certainly okay. Favourites can bring comfort or security and of course enjoyment. Given our different personalities and tastes, if we went around the room this morning, there would be a lot of different favourites.

However there is a fine line with our favourites. The line when our favourites grow a sense of favouritism. Especially when it crosses over to people. Do you have a favourite parent or child or sibling or friend? You might! When we begin to treat people differently or preferentially over others is what James is warning us about.

James’ letter was for the followers of Jesus who left Jerusalem after the resurrection of Jesus. They had been sent to spread the Good News of the Gospel. His letter is full of instructions on how they should operate and get on with people. James had learned a few things the hard way, he missed the message of Jesus while he was alive. Now James is urgently wanting his audience to get it and do it better than he did.

James has a unique insight into human behaviour; he knows the dangers and damage the tongue and the words that roll off it can do. If he was speaking to a modern audience, he might also include our thumbs and the send button. From the same mouth, or thumbs, come blessing and cursing.

What makes James’ letter even more poignant is that James is thought to have been a biological brother of Jesus. He may have been the first-born son of Mary and Joseph. Imagine for a moment growing up under the same roof with Jesus as your older brother? Maybe James grew up feeling he was not the favourite? Anyone with siblings generally knows the destructive power of the tongue. We do not know much about James’ life. The references in the New Testament to Jesus’ family coming to remove him or being embarrassed by him would have included James.

In Acts, James seems to be involved in the early church in Jerusalem after the resurrection. At some point James went from non-believing to believing in Jesus, the potentially annoying older brother to the true Messiah. Something happened to transform James to a passionate leader in the church and writer of one of the most challenging letters in the New Testament.

James is pointing out our condition of inconsistency and carelessness. We need boundaries and guidelines to help us live in peace and freedom with other people. At the end of chapter one, James reminds his readers to remain unstained by the world. He starts chapter two with an example that is still spot-on for today: our capability to treat people differently. Left to ourselves we would favour one and dismiss another. We all have our own prejudices.

James would call this being stained by the world. We cannot have faith and favouritism as they do not go together. The people in the Jerusalem church liked rich people more than poor, clean people better than dirty people, healthy people better than sick people. Who doesn’t?

Well God doesn’t! This is the shocking answer that James gives. God is totally blind to our normal measures of society. He does not seem to notice accents or cost out people’s clothes and treat them accordingly. He makes no distinction between posh and common. He doesn’t need to. He is God.

Faith should change the way we live. Calling ourselves Christians should make a difference in the world around us. The streets of Charwood and the lanes of Sidlow Bridge should be better because of our faith. Our neighbours should be loved the same as we love ourselves.
Our faith needs to work. There should be some evidence in the world around us and in our families of our faith. As much as we might want to be favoured or more highly favoured than another, sadly we are not in the sight of God. This might be disappointing news!

This does not mean that we are less loved or less valued by God. Of course not. It means that in God’s kingdom there is no favouritism. We are equal in his eyes and there is nothing that we can do or say to change that. He would not be a good and loving Father if he favoured one of us over another.

We see this in the Gospel story of the Syro-Phoenician woman and her daughter’s encounter with Jesus. I think this is a fascinating passage although I am not always sure of what to make of it. A new insight into this story in regard to favouritism is that she is certain that God does not have favourites!
Jesus appears to be travelling on his own. He has left the Disciples and has gone away to the region of Tyre. Wherever he was going Jesus did not want anyone to know he was there. He seems to have wanted to close himself off – catch a break, have a rest. But instead he is interrupted by this woman of a different race and her persistent begging for a favour.

Her little daughter, we are told, has an unclean spirit and she is in distress over what to do. She has obviously heard about Jesus and somehow found out that he is in town. I wonder who told her about Jesus? It must have been a convincing story for her to seek him out. That or she was so desperate to find someone to help her daughter. Despite the social, class, race and gender difference she is determined to speak to him. Nothing is going to stop her from asking, begging and pleading with Jesus to heal her daughter.

Jesus’ response to her is less than kind; it is really quite shocking! Jesus is rude to her. What is going on?! Jesus was fully human and we all know what it is to want a break, take a rest or just be alone for a while. Where was the compassionate Jesus who fed the 5000 because he felt sorry for them? How can he not now have compassion on a single, poor, hurting woman? Jesus has his vision enlarged by the encounter with her.

It is surprising to say that this woman reminded the Son of God of the scope of the Father’s love. Jesus is moved deeply by the depths of her faith. She is certain that God does not have favourites, that there is always enough of God’s provision: his love, his healing and grace to go around. Even the crumbs of God are enough to heal and restore and this is what she believes.

Her answer is so striking that Jesus heals her daughter that instant and sends the woman home to find that the demon has left the child. Jesus shows in his actions that he has no favouritism either. He goes from this encounter to heal the deaf man with a speech impediment.

Jesus’ prayer here is interesting. He looked up to heaven, he sighed and said, ‘Be opened.’ Be opened. Maybe this was a prayer for himself as much as it was for the deaf man whose ears needed to be opened.

Be opened. Maybe this morning we need our eyes and ears opened again. Opened to those around us who need less favouritism shown from us. Opened to those around us who need more attention or better treatment from us.

There is no room in our faith for favouritism. If we have made space for it then we need to close that gap. Return to the one who loves you and cares for you but doesn’t favour you.

I want to end with a few verses from the Proverb set for today.

Proverbs 22

1 A good name is more desirable than great riches;
to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.
2 Rich and poor have this in common:
The Lord is the Maker of them all.
8 Whoever sows injustice reaps calamity,
and the rod they wield in fury will be broken.
9 The generous will themselves be blessed,
for they share their food with the poor.
22 Do not exploit the poor because they are poor
and do not crush the needy in court,
23 for the Lord will take up their case
and will exact life for life.

Medmenham Village Service: Self-Control

Medmenham Village Service
16/7/23

James 3:1-12 – Self-Control

Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. 2 We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.

3 When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4 Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.
7 All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, 8 but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
9 With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. 10 Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. 11 Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? 12 My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.


Again, many thanks for John MacKenzie for throwing out the suggestion of self-control for this Sunday!

On the list of the fruit of the Spirit from Galatians 5, which is the guiding verse for our services at this time, self-control is last. This is no accident or oversight. We might be tempted to think that because it is on the bottom of the list that it does not matter as much as the other. Surely it is more important to be kind or loving than self-controlled?! f you were here in June and heard Sue & Pete’s interview, the focus was on love and God’s love for us. Love keeps us afloat. This morning I want to suggest that self-control keeps us anchored.

Self-control is the constant balancing act of motivations and actions; it provides form and structure for us to operate in. Any person without self-control is either an accident looking for a place to happen or a slave in chains. We can go to the extremes and both are unhealthy for us.

A lack of self-control kills self respect, friendships, marriages, careers and relationships. Many of us will struggle with this for much of our lives. Self-control is not about living with guilt and misery or being so contained that we lose all pleasure in life; it is about living within healthy boundaries where we can live in freedom and without fear. It is being able to say ‘that is enough!’ and being comfortable in that decision.

Paul in his letters to the Corinthians puts it rather well as he wrote, ‘Everything is permissible for me – but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible for me – but I will not be mastered by anything.’

The key to self-control is the refusal to allow our enemies (the flesh, the world or Satan) to rule or hold us captive in any way. Self-control is as much about saying ‘yes’ and ‘not right now’ as it is about saying ‘no’. It is not always about ‘what’ but ‘how much’ and no ‘when’ but ‘why’. Self-control is ultimately an issue of mastery, of authority, and of boundaries.

Why do I need it!? There is a pithy little verse in Proverbs: like a city whose walls are broken down is a person who lacks self-control. Sounds like something from a fortune cookie! Broken walls let anything in! In ancient architecture a city was only as secure as the walls which surround it. The walls protected the people inside. In cities like Babylon, the walls gave the reputation that the cities were impenetrable.

Self-control is our wall of protection! It fortifies all that is within us; it secures our freedom to love, to experience joy, to know peace, to respond with patience, to have a kind disposition, to act out of goodness, to step out in faithfulness and to agree with gentleness. Self-control is the ability to make choices and decisions to remain within the boundaries.

James 3: James is writing his letter to followers of Jesus who had to leave Jerusalem after the resurrection of Jesus. They had been sent to spread the Good News of the Gospel. His letter is full of instructions on how they should operate and get on with people. James had learned a few things the hard way, he missed the message of Jesus while he was alive. Now James is urgently wanting his audience to get it and do it better than he did!

James has a unique insight into human behaviour; he knows the dangers and damage the tongue and the words that roll off it can do! If he was speaking to a modern audience, he might also include our thumbs and the send button! From the same mouth, or thumbs, come blessing and cursing.

James is pointing out our condition! Inconsistency and carelessness. This is where the need for self-control is most evident. We need boundaries and guidelines to help us live in peace and freedom with other people.

Think before you speak or text.
Think about what it is you really want to say and why.
Don’t speak in haste or anger.
Don’t criticise the crocodile before you cross the river.
Consider that you might actually be wrong!

I will finish with Ephesians 4:29 – Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building up, as there is need, so that your words may give grace to those who hear.

Self-control is about freedom for everyone; it is living in love and being anchored so that we can live fruitful lives. It is about living in freedom and confidence to say that is enough for me. Self-control means giving serious thought to how we use our words and thumbs for building up and not tearing down. However right we think we might be.